Happy 2025, Divas!
It is officially January, which means by now you will have been properly bombarded with end of year recaps, resolutions, and the sudden collective pressure to “fix” yourself. But before we dive into this entry, let us first take a moment to acknowledge something important: the Gregorian calendar was completely made up by humans. Yes, the same species who brought us Sharknado and Cheetos Mac ‘N Cheese. January isn’t inherently magical. It’s just another month, and there’s no divine rule dictating you must start the new year with an extreme life makeover. Glad we got that out of the way! <3
When I sat down to write this month’s column, I planned to title it “A Diva’s Guide to Manifesting Your Dreams.” But as I began, I realized that a few years ago, such a guide would have been virtually meaningless to me. I didn’t know who I was, let alone what my dreams were. I was lost, depleted and afraid. If you’re starting this year in a similar place, let me assure you: you’re not alone. My past self is sitting there right beside you, along with countless others.
Realizing you’re lost is absolutely terrifying. Especially in a world where, at the click of a button, you can watch friends, colleagues, and idols seemingly living out their dreams. But this realization is also an incredible gift. Because in order to recognize that you’re lost, you’ve had to wake up. You’ve not only turned off autopilot, but you’ve ejected yourself from the plane. So, if you’re reading this and thinking, “I have no idea who I am or what I want,” congratulations! Truly. Taking the time to pause and ask yourself those questions is the first step, one that takes real courage and strength.
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Even as I write this as my most authentic self to date, I know I’m still figuring it out. But I’ve learned to embrace this as a side effect of being a naturally curious person. A part of me will always be in search of more, and I’ve grown to see this as not only normal but deeply exciting. It means you’re alive! (As much as I would love to wake up one day with all of the answers and be done, LOL.)
Of course, there will always be parts of life that are out of our control. Systems and circumstances can limit us, and I’d never suggest otherwise. But in so many ways, you will always have more agency over your life than you may realize. Once you gather the courage to start asking yourself who you are and what you truly want, you begin laying the foundation of a life that aligns with your core values and dreams—even if those dreams feel completely delusional or incomplete right now.
So, as we stride into this new year, please try not to worry about resolutions or manifesting some shiny, ideal version of yourself. Instead, lean into curiosity. You don’t need to have anything figured out to take the first step.
Here are some questions to ask yourself as you develop your journey:
1. What are 5 moments from this past year when you felt the most at peace? Who were you with? What were you doing?
Find three commonalities between these moments of peace and journal about them.
2. What excited you the most as a child?
Was it arts and craft? Time spent exploring outside? A book series? Try to recreate the experience.
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3. What or who drains you?
You don’t have to cut ties completely, but maybe try taking some space away from those people. Reflect on how the space makes you feel.
4. What are your biggest fears?
Oftentimes, our fears and desires are deeply interconnected. Write a list of 5 fears and reflect on what they are trying to tell you.
5. What’s one small thing you can do this week to bring a little more joy, or purpose into your life?
An at-home coffee routine? A new form of working out? An old hobby you’d like to revisit? Keep trying things until you find one that sticks.
Remember: the best Divas didn’t become icons overnight. They each found their way step by step, often fumbling in the dark. And if they can do it, so can we.
Here’s to 2025— not as the year you become a “new you” but as the year you begin the thrilling, messy, and deeply rewarding process of unearthing your true self. Keep following the joy— I promise you are already waiting there.
Until next month!
Your fellow Diva,
Teddy
