How many times have you been at an audition, a networking event, out with friends or even out on a date where you thought you had to ramp up your star power and be over the top? You felt that just being you wasn’t enough and what others were expecting? They wanted to see the over the top, confident, opera star so you kicked your WOW factor into high gear and felt like you were playing the winning role. It helped make you feel confident, powerful and in control but still you didn’t win the competition, get the job or make the right kind of lasting impression on others.
It’s amazing when you start realizing that feeling still, peaceful and gentle within creates more star power than all the “razzle-dazzle” you could possibly create on the outside. If you look at those people you admire most, they are usually centered, congruent and at peace within which makes them confident, consistent, present and empowered on the outside without exerting any effort.
Have you had the privilege of seeing a live performance where you were so drawn into the story that when the curtain came down and the lights came up you almost felt embarrassed about being caught watching something so intimate and personal it felt like you had been looking through a one way mirror into someone else’s very personal space without them knowing about it? Is that the kind of performer you aspire to? What is it that they are doing that you would like to model? Have you been with a group of friends and been able to recognize each one for what they contribute to the synergy of the group or do you feel like you have to play the role of leader? Notice how the energy of the group changes first by doing what you have always done and then trying the opposite position. Which position feels more natural and contributes to the group best. Is there someone who deeply inspires you? Do you ask yourself what is it about them that makes that happen and then try to model that behavior?
Getting used to just being 100 % who you are, is a process that will take some time to get used to. It starts with mindful consideration, and then moves into doing things consciously and on purpose. So, don’t try so hard to be more than you already are. Just be you. You are enough!
You Are Enough
